Monday, September 18, 2017

Valuing the Time Together

Photography: Red Fern Photography
Top: J.Crew / Sweater: Chelsea 28 (anniversary sale similar here) / Jeans: AG / Shoes: 1.State / Bag: Rebecca Minkoff / Necklace: Alixandra Collections c/o / Lips: Pucker & Pout - Caramel Apple
I can't even begin to tell you how amazing Sunday was!!! Why?!

Did I go on some type of adventure?

New restaurant?

Vacation??

Nope none of that! Sunday was amazing because I got to spend the whole day with my little family of three. Todd, Django, and I! Sunday morning I had a Pure Barre team photoshoot, and then when I got home I was surprised to see Todd home so early since he normally comes home in the afternoon after a 36 hour shift. Once I got Django settled down from his initial "I walk in the door" excitement, Todd then asked me if I wanted to go to church. Religion is both important to both Todd and I, but I will admit that we haven't attended a single day of church since we have been in Dallas. 

Why? Todd's schedule is so crazy that he's only had two weekends off since we have been here, and on the Sundays when he comes home from a 36 hour shift he needs to sleep. 

Why haven't I gone by myself? I probably will make friends if I attend church by myself I would rather be home when Todd comes home from work just so I can see him. Now I am NOT the girl who needs to be with her husband 24/7! I am actually quite the opposite. I am very independent, work my day around my own schedule, and find joy in doing projects for my businesses outside of being home. Since our life changed 3 months ago I value, and crave time together as much as we can fit in. 

When Todd asked me to attend church yesterday allowed me to just spill my heart out to him. I told him that we both value going to church, but I value our time together more at this point of our lives. Part of being an ambitious couple has become putting our relationship on the back burner in order for us to succeed in our careers. Back in January we were a dark place in our marriage, and we both hit an all time low. Ever since then we decided to go to counseling, and work through our issues in our marriage. One thing that I realized is that we need to spend quality time together playing, and reconnecting with one another. 

Yes we can spend time together going to church, but that's not what our relationship needs. That's not what I need now. I need more. I need to be able to spend hours with my husband playing outside, making memories, laughing, exploring, and get back to dating again. We have such limited time together that we need to spend it doing things that will strengthen our connection with one another, and not cave into our religious responsibilities. If we were in a different place in our lives where his crazy doctor schedule didn't prevent us from hanging out I wouldn't being saying this, but this is life now. 

After about 30 minutes of me crying about my feelings we both decided that Sunday was going to be spent hanging out as a family. All day was filled with going to parks, lakes, and then going to see a movie. Yesterday was perfect, and just the thing I needed to take on the week. 

3 comments:

  1. I love this post!! I am pretty religious and value church on Sunday each week, but sometimes "life" comes before church, as you make the point here. So glad y'all had a nice Sunday together as a family!! <3

    xoxo A
    www.southernbelleintraining.com

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  2. But that is also very important! Making memories, relaxing, enjoying time together!

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  3. Your outfit is gorgeous! I love the long cardigan. I've been married for over 30 years and if theres anything I've learned is that there are seasons in a marriage and to not give up on it because this season will soon be over! The busy, career-building, family-building season of marriage was the most difficult for me as well. There never seemed to be any time to be alone as a couple having fun. It sounds like you found exactly what your marriage needed. We have also discovered that getting out and doing things together keeps our marriage and relationship alive and healthy as well.

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